What will be important in the end?

IMG_0745My mom died August 11.  In the weeks before she passed, we knew it was coming and she wanted to be surrounded by those she loved. Her kids, grand kids, great grand kids – her brother, sister in law and sister – her nieces – close family friends – these were the people who brought her joy.  She didn’t talk about the money she had made or the things she sold; she talked about the things that brought her joy.

Several times she asked about her bear, did I have it?  She made me promise not to lose it – it meant a lot to her.  When she was 3 or 4 it had been a bad year for her family.  It was in the early 30’s and the depression affected them greatly.  At Christmas time her brother got a little red truck and she got a bear, this bear in the picture.  It was all her folks could afford.  That bear lived his whole life with her – and at the end of her life, he was on her mind.  Surviving those hard times, receiving this gift when her parents didn’t have the money for him, his presence in all of her life — this is what mattered in the end.

I’m close to my mom, and this has not been an easy time.  My family loves me and they are over an hour away from me.  My friends mean the world to me and they answer the phone, and visit, and go out to eat a lot with me.  My mom would call me every night around 6:30 pm and that is the hardest time of the day now – my friends make sure I’m not alone (until I’m ready to be).  Last night I texted  a friend who was traveling and God bless him, he got me through a dark spot.  He asked me what token could I put in pocket and it could be my touchstone to remind me that my mom is always with me.  I thought of the bear.  Yet – this bear is old and not up to travel.  He’d also look kinda lumpy in my pocket.

IMG_0746I was going through my jewelry and this angel jumped out at me.  Mom loved angels and this was a gift she had received.  It has the word joy on it.  I’ve found my touchstone.

What you might ask does this post have to do with business?  Nothing and everything.  Make sure you are developing relationships that will matter in the end.  Treat your clients and customers like they matter.  Be kind.  Bring joy when you can.

It wont’ be business deals that you’ll focus on when your time comes.  Live a life that matters in the end.


  1. Gerrit on September 24, 2015 at 1:05 am

    Having an angel in your pocket is a good thing. Be well. Keep looking up and forward.

  2. Linda on September 24, 2015 at 1:06 am

    The angel is perfect.

    Angels on you!

  3. Jeanne Cole on September 24, 2015 at 1:11 am

    Deb, your story is inspiring! Such a thoughtful gift to your friends. A reminder of the truly important moments in life. Think of you often, praying for the return of that JOY in your life.

  4. Carman on September 24, 2015 at 2:07 am

    what a wonderful tribute Deb, it is a struggle to say goodbye for now; filled with sadness and joy, tears and laughter,.
    I’m close, you can call anytime, for now hugs….

  5. Drew McLellan on September 24, 2015 at 4:14 am


    As we know — true business is about serving others and a greater good — with a skill level that rewards us financially. But it starts with having a heart for others and genuinely wanting to contribute to where they’re trying to go.

    Your post is simply an extension on that. In the end, life is about those same things.

    Your mom’s life and her lessons live in and with you. We’re fortunate that you’re willing to share them with all of us.

    Glad you found the perfect reminder that your Mom is with you, is proud of you and is watching over you.


  6. Jean on September 24, 2015 at 7:37 am

    Hugs through the ether.

  7. Deb on September 24, 2015 at 2:31 pm

    Thank you all – and Drew, thank you.

  8. Beth Ann Chiles on September 24, 2015 at 3:06 pm

    It is a tough thing this grief that we have to endure when our loved ones pass on but you are finding ways to cope and manage. Thank God for friends who realize our sadness and know just the right words and suggestions to make. I love your touchstone and I am sure it brings you comfort during those dark times. Thank you for sharing from your heart what is certainly a post that will help many. Hugs.