Immediacy is not always good

Crying girl on benchMonday night my community lost one of it’s young, bright people.  He was going home after work and had an accident and died.  This happened about 9:15 pm.

By 11 it was all over social media.  Someone driving by saw the accident and told someone who told someone who put it on facebook.  (We think that’s the train of action, but for sure it was similar.)

The sad news is this young man’s direct family found out about it on social media.  That’s no way to receive the most horrific news of your life.

So next time you’re about to share some bad news, or comment on it – think first.  Give the authorities time to reach the family first.  I know we all grieve for this family – but it would have been proper to let them grieve on their own first.



  1. Linda on February 6, 2015 at 12:35 pm

    Well said Deb. We lost our daughter 14 years ago her senior year due to car accident. Thank God that’s not how we found out.This is the hardest thing those parents will ever have to go through and people need to let them grieve in their own way and be there for them. My heart goes out to the family and friends.

  2. deb on February 8, 2015 at 9:23 pm

    Linda –
    So sorry to hear about your loss. I found out that the parents were informed by the sheriff – but apparently some direct family found out online. I can’t even imagine the pain for parents to lose a child.

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