7 Telltale Signs It’s Time to Get Over Yourself and Get Support

Todays Guest Post is by Christine Kane

Back when I had a lawn, I used to mow it myself. I was a tried-and-true DIY gal. I prided myself on it.

Only problem?

I freakin’ couldn’t stand mowing the lawn. I dreaded it all week. Even when I was happy once it was finished, I started dreading it again the very next day!

At that time, I was beginning to uplevel my life and business. I began seeing my time differently. I realized that the simple act of writing a song like “Right Outta Nowhere” could pay me – in the long run – WAY more than the money I saved by mowing my own lawn.

In other words, I learned how to value my work. I learned how to act on that value. Was it scary? Yes. But when I finally hired someone to mow my lawn every week, I learned all about success and the value of my time . In other words, I got over myself and my fear of lack.

These days I’ve taken it to a much bigger level, and I have a team working for me.

I now teach my clients new ways of valuing their time as they expand into more success in their own lives. They always end up realizing the ROI (Return On Investment) of getting help!

Here are 7 telltale signs that it might be time for you to get some support, too…

1 – You don’t have enough time to do the thing you’re best at.

What are you good at? What do you want to be good at? How much time do you actually spend doing that thing?

If you’re running around getting menial tasks done – and you have no time to pursue your passion, or engage in your high-pay-off, high-delight activities – then ask yourself why.

Even if you let go of one item (like cleaning your house) you’re telling the Universe the value of your time. (And you know what? The Universe always says Yes.)

2 – You resent people who don’t struggle.

This is a big one.

If you hold resentment for people who live life with joy and ease, this could be a sign that you are waiting for rescue. That just leads to more struggle.

Only YOU are in charge of whether or not you struggle . Rescue yourself and learn what true empowerment feels like.

3 – You’re worried about the economy.

Waiting for the economy to get better before you’ll hire someone? Why not become a part of the solution and use your money to improve the economy?

While everyone else is pulling back and firing people – you can experience what it’s like to be the change you wish to see in the world!

4 – No one can do it as good as you.

If you just shouted “Amen Sister!” – then please step away from your computer. Go to the bathroom mirror. Look into your eyes and say the following aloud:

“I have a bit of a control issue.”

The belief that no one can do it better than you serves only to keep you in the role of the Martyr. Unless you are, say, a brain surgeon, then there are many people who can (and will) do it as good as you. (And I doubt that brain surgeons run around cleaning the floor after surgery!)

5 – You’re playing not to lose.

Ask any coach or athlete about this.

When you play to not lose , all you’re doing is surviving, relying on yourself and hoping no one notices you.
When you play to win – you take risks, you keep your mental attitude strong, you rely on the team, you look for the goal. Decide that you want to play to win.

6 – You’ve used this phrase at least once in the past month: “By the time I show someone how to do it, I could just do it myself.”

This is the mantra of someone who refuses to succeed. It’s the mantra of the struggle-addict.

Learning how to delegate is empowering. Not just for you, but for others as well. Besides, when you show them how to do it once, they can keep doing it so you don’t have to!

7 – You dread certain things so much that they don’t get done.

It’s okay to not enjoy aspects of your work or your life. This is the exact thing you can hire someone to do.
What items do you dread? No matter what they are, when you get them off your plate, you’ll experience more energy just knowing they’re getting done – and you don’t have to worry about them anymore!

Christine Kane is the Mentor to Women Who are Changing the World. She helps women uplevel their lives, their businesses and their success. Her weekly LiveCreative eZine goes out to over 12,000 subscribers. If you are ready to take your life and your world to the next level, you can sign up for a F.R.E.E. subscription at


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  2. Susan Murphy on August 5, 2010 at 12:40 pm

    About 2 years ago, we hired a cleaning lady. Not just any cleaning lady – the BEST cleaning lady ever in the history of the world. It was life altering – I’d come home to a spotless house, and remarkably (even with 4 furry creatures running around) it STAYED clean until almost the next time she came over! Suddenly, other than the occasional spot-cleaning, I was free from the chains of scrubbing floors and bathtubs. I was free to focus on the things I needed to be focused on.

    Then, a few months ago, we made some budget adjustments and decided that the cleaning lady wasn’t a priority any longer. Ah, we can handle it together – we’ll split up the chores – it won’t be much work. How wrong we were.

    Since she left, I’ve been stressed and out of sorts, knowing that the bathroom needed cleaning or the rug needed vacuuming. I worry about it and don’t focus on the things I need to be focused on.

    So, we re-hired her. Thank goodness she’s a friend and is able to make room for us again. I’m excited to have her back.

    Best money I spend.

  3. Deb Brown on August 6, 2010 at 9:01 pm

    Susan –
    That’s exactly what I’m talking about! Thanks for sharing that story.